You Don't Really Want the Car and the Money (HUH!?!)

If I said I were taking you to a car dealership right now to buy you any car you wanted and it won’t cost you a dime, you’d probably be okay with that. But the truth is you really don’t want the car. If I said I were going to give you a million dollars, you’d probably be pretty okay with that too. But you really don’t want the money.

Now before you write me off as crazy, hear me out. You don’t want a million dollars. Why would anybody just want a stack of green paper with pictures of dead presidents on them? But that stack of green paper can buy you a lot of nice things, can help your family live a better life, can help you attain your dreams and goals, and it can help you better the world.

What money BUYS is the “why” you want it.

In Tony Robbins’ course Get the Edge, he explains we really don’t want any of the things we think we want. What we really want is the feeling those things will give us. Why do you want that brand new dream car? Because it will give you status and make you feel really cool. Why do you want more money? Because it will make you feel free and successful. So what we are truly going after is never the thing, but the feeling that thing will give us.

Our ultimate goal is to improve our emotional state to simply feel better.

Our mind connects having that new car with feeling successful. So what drives us is the feeling we attach to things, not necessarily the things themselves. We condition ourselves to believe we first must have X before we can feel Y. In other words, once I have a million dollars, then I will feel like my life has worth. It’s not the money we really want but the feeling of worthiness (by the way, to build a strong self-worth reread The Second Pillar.)

Are you getting this? Our goal is to start creating as much joy as we can in our lives.

Arel Moodie is widely known as America's Top Young Speaker. He has spoken to over 65,000 students in 39 states and 2 countries on the topics of student success, student leadership and student entrepreneurship. He is a leading authority on helping students of this generation succeed in school and in life. He is also the best selling author of the book Your Starting Point For Student Success. To find out more about Arel's book, go to www.startingpointbook.com. To find out more about Arel's speaking please go to www.arelmoodie.com.