Use "The List"

Here is an action step you should take right now. This is going to be a tough one, so you may want to do it alone where you can feel safe and open with yourself and not worry about people wondering what you are writing.

Make a list of the people you spend the most time with. Next to their names, you will add a plus sign, “+,” or a minus sign, “-”. The plus sign represents  people who have values similar to yours or values that motivate you to move forward in life—those people who are supportive and those you know will help you on your journey to success. They add value to your life. Put a minus sign next to those who fall under the category of EPs. These are the people who you feel aren’t helping you along your journey of success. Keep spending time with the people with pluses, and start distancing yourself from the people with minuses.

This can be very emotional and very hard to do, so I recommend doing it when you have a free afternoon or don’t have to worry about having to do anything in particular for a few hours. Again, it may be tough for you, but it will be one of the best decisions you make for your overall sanity.

Arel Moodie is widely known as America's Top Young Speaker. He has spoken to over 65,000 students in 39 states and 2 countries on the topics of student success, student leadership and student entrepreneurship. He is a leading authority on helping students of this generation succeed in school and in life. He is also the best selling author of the book Your Starting Point For Student Success. To find out more about Arel's book, go to www.startingpointbook.com. To find out more about Arel's speaking please go to www.arelmoodie.com.